
Posted on
June 24, 2020
BlueFrost
What is Your Scene Name? | BlueFrost |
City and State of residence? | Waldorf, Maryland |
Region of Residence? | Northeast/MidAtlantic |
What are your pronouns? | She/her/hers |
What is your gender Identity? | Female |
What is your sexual identity? | Choose not to disclose |
What is are your racial identities? | African American |
What is/are your ethnicities? (Culture, nationality, ancestry, language) | Black American |
How did you first get into Leather and/or Kink? | Offline |
Give a Brief Description of your entrance into Leather and/or Kink | I was invited to a kink party from a submissive man I was dating, who wanted me to be his Mistress. |
What was your local scene like when you were starting? How is it now, by comparison? | Mostly white but very welcoming, later I found where kinky POC gathered. Now the scene is a lot more diverse at most events. However, as a former region titleholder, I’m welcomed in more spaces. |
Who’s the most influential Black person. In your life and why? | My bio mother, she taught me everything I needed to know about life by teaching me morality. |
What book have you read that influenced your life and why? | The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. This book taught me perspective outside of my own and how to give others and myself grace. |
Talk about one of your favorite experiences in your local Kink and/or Leather Community. | Master/slave conference 2016 the theme was Being Authentic. I realized that slave was my authentic self and the power it held for me. There I embrace my slavehood and have never looked back |
Do you have a favorite mantra or quote? If so, please share. | The four agreements are these: Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best. |
Name of Clubs you have been a part of? (Please also notate duration, leadership positions if any, and membership levels) | N/A |
Are you a founding member of any club(s)? | No |
If you answered yes to previous question please list club(s), or write n/a. | N/A |
Are you a founding member of any organization? | Yes |
If you answered yes to previous question please list organization(s), or write n/a. | Leather Houses of Color Coalition (LHOCC) I am the co-visionary and House of Blue is one of the 4 foundering houses. LHOCC began as a vision in 2016 and launched in 2017. House of Blue held the President’s position in its inaugural year of 2017 and has served on the board ever since. |
Were there any other Black leather folks around in the leather scene when you came into the scene/community? | Yes |
If so, did you find that you gravitated more towards each other? If not, how did this affect your experience? Did you build your own community? Say more about your experience. | The black folx gravitated towards me as they had more experience in the scene. I have always felt welcomed by all in my local scene even before meeting my Master and holding a title. |
Do you think being Black has hampered your experience in the leather/kink community at all? | No |
If it has, what kind of things did you do to try and remedy those issues? If it hasn’t, please describe. | I have always navigated diverse spaces, I know I belong so I don’t feel otherwise. I was taught as a child how to make my presence know and how to take up space so it’s a part of who I am as a person. |
Is there a specific instance where you feel your Blackness enhanced your experience in Leather? | Yes |
If you answered “yes” or “maybe” please explain. |
My blackness is much more than my skin color, it is my core existence. It’s why I’m unique and relatable. It why I walk it like, I talk it. It is my superpower! Hence, I’ve been asked to speak at national conferences and has propelled me forward. It’s why I am compelled to excellence for all those who were overlooked that walked before me.
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What is a specific challenge you had coming up in Leather that was unrelated to race/ethnicity? | Identity. There was way too much frenzy over what side of the slash one was on. Still is if I’m being honest. |
How do you find you’re treated in the Leather community vs. the greater LGBT community? | As a former International Leather Titleholder, the Leather Community treats me very well vs the greater LGBT where I’m seen as another Hetero normative person. |
Do you feel that the leather community and embracing blackness has a positive outlook? | Yes |
Please explain your previous response. | Yes, I always see the future as positive. It’s being shaped by what we are doing in the present. |
What advice would you give to newcomers in the Leather scene who are Black? | Take up space, it’s yours, you deserve it. |
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