What is Your Scene Name? BlueFrost
City and State of residence? Waldorf, Maryland
Region of Residence? Northeast/MidAtlantic
What are your pronouns? She/her/hers
What is your gender Identity? Female
What is your sexual identity? Choose not to disclose
What is are your racial identities? African American
What is/are your ethnicities? (Culture, nationality, ancestry, language) Black American
How did you first get into Leather and/or Kink? Offline
Give a Brief Description of your entrance into Leather and/or Kink I was invited to a kink party from a submissive man I was dating, who wanted me to be his Mistress.
What was your local scene like when you were starting? How is it now, by comparison? Mostly white but very welcoming, later I found where kinky POC gathered. Now the scene is a lot more diverse at most events. However, as a former region titleholder, I’m welcomed in more spaces.
Who’s the most influential Black person. In your life and why? My bio mother, she taught me everything I needed to know about life by teaching me morality.
What book have you read that influenced your life and why? The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. This book taught me perspective outside of my own and how to give others and myself grace.
Talk about one of your favorite experiences in your local Kink and/or Leather Community. Master/slave conference 2016 the theme was Being Authentic. I realized that slave was my authentic self and the power it held for me. There I embrace my slavehood and have never looked back
Do you have a favorite mantra or quote? If so, please share. The four agreements are these: Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best.
Name of Clubs you have been a part of? (Please also notate duration, leadership positions if any, and membership levels) N/A
Are you a founding member of any club(s)? No
If you answered yes to previous question please list club(s), or write n/a. N/A
Are you a founding member of any organization? Yes
If you answered yes to previous question please list organization(s), or write n/a. Leather Houses of Color Coalition (LHOCC) I am the co-visionary and House of Blue is one of the 4 foundering houses. LHOCC began as a vision in 2016 and launched in 2017. House of Blue held the President’s position in its inaugural year of 2017 and has served on the board ever since.
Were there any other Black leather folks around in the leather scene when you came into the scene/community? Yes
If so, did you find that you gravitated more towards each other? If not, how did this affect your experience? Did you build your own community? Say more about your experience. The black folx gravitated towards me as they had more experience in the scene. I have always felt welcomed by all in my local scene even before meeting my Master and holding a title.
Do you think being Black has hampered your experience in the leather/kink community at all? No
If it has, what kind of things did you do to try and remedy those issues? If it hasn’t, please describe. I have always navigated diverse spaces, I know I belong so I don’t feel otherwise. I was taught as a child how to make my presence know and how to take up space so it’s a part of who I am as a person.
Is there a specific instance where you feel your Blackness enhanced your experience in Leather? Yes
If you answered “yes” or “maybe” please explain.
My blackness is much more than my skin color, it is my core existence. It’s why I’m unique and relatable. It why I walk it like, I talk it. It is my superpower! Hence, I’ve been asked to speak at national conferences and has propelled me forward. It’s why I am compelled to excellence for all those who were overlooked that walked before me.
What is a specific challenge you had coming up in Leather that was unrelated to race/ethnicity? Identity. There was way too much frenzy over what side of the slash one was on. Still is if I’m being honest.
How do you find you’re treated in the Leather community vs. the greater LGBT community? As a former International Leather Titleholder, the Leather Community treats me very well vs the greater LGBT where I’m seen as another Hetero normative person.
Do you feel that the leather community and embracing blackness has a positive outlook? Yes
Please explain your previous response. Yes, I always see the future as positive. It’s being shaped by what we are doing in the present.
What advice would you give to newcomers in the Leather scene who are Black? Take up space, it’s yours, you deserve it.
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